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Epic fail

Posted by Mike Heady on January 23, 2017 with No Commentsas , , , , , , , , , , , ,

When I was in seminary I played on a church softball team.  In one game I was playing second base and the other team had a runner on first.  The batter hit the ball to shallow center field.  I went to second to take the throw for an easy force out.  Now this was a league of rural churches.  We didn’t always have the best fields and equipment.   In this game, second base wasn’t a bag; it was a piece of carpet – not big, thick shag carpet – thin, flat carpet.  I couldn’t feel it with my foot.  The runner was safe because I didn’t get my foot on the base.  My teammates responded – you would have thought I just lost the 7th game of the World Series!  Everybody stayed on my case the rest of the game, even though we won by about 18 – 2.  Epic fail!

I’ve failed a lot worse than that, of course.  We all have.  What does failure do to us?  It gives us a sense of being unacceptable, rejected, condemned.  We live with regret, if-only, and trying to do better or just giving up and pretending I’m okay.

The need to be accepted begins early.  It starts in the family – as a child you need desperately to know both parents accept you unconditionally.  It continues through life.  We put in a lot of work, spend a lot of money, and put on a lot of performances trying to make ourselves acceptable.

There’s a level in our personalities where acceptance makes it possible to accept ourselves and to handle all the other levels of acceptance and rejection.  That level is where we experience unconditional acceptance.   See it in action in John 8:2-11.

Early in the morning He came again into the temple, and all the people were coming to Him; and He sat down and began to teach them. The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman caught in adultery, and having set her in the center of the court,  they said to Him, “Teacher, this woman has been caught in adultery, in the very act.  Now in the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women; what then do You say?”  They were saying this, testing Him, so that they might have grounds for accusing Him. But Jesus stooped down and with His finger wrote on the ground.  But when they persisted in asking Him, He straightened up, and said to them, “He who is without sin among you, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”  Again He stooped down and wrote on the ground.  When they heard it, they began to go out one by one, beginning with the older ones, and He was left alone, and the woman, where she was, in the center of the court.  Straightening up, Jesus said to her, “Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?”  She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you, either. Go. From now on sin no more.”

No one really finds total acceptance until they experience what this woman did.  This is a real life drama with a surprising and powerful ending.  We’ll stand at the edge and watch the drama unfold.  Occasionally we’ll move in for a close-up view and we’ll step back to look at ourselves.

Early one morning during the Feast of Tabernacles when the city was overflowing with religious pilgrims, Jesus comes into Jerusalem and goes to the Temple.  Soon a crowd gathers around him and he begins to teach.  He’s interrupted when a committee makes its appearance: the teachers of the Law and the Pharisees.  These guys are genuine spiritual snobs.  They carry their noses so high they would catch on power lines.  They are holy and they know it.  They have God and people all figured out.  Have all the answers.  This is the official Sinner Stoning Committee, and they’re ready to fulfill their assignment.

Two of the biggest men drag in a young woman.  She may have been an unmarried teenager or a married adult.  They throw her to the ground in front of Jesus and everyone else.  The committee chairman calls the meeting to order and loudly announces: “This woman was caught in the act of adultery!”  He looks around the crowd like an arrogant prosecuting attorney with an air-tight case and fixes his stare on Jesus: “The Law says she must be stoned.  What do you say?”

The Law – yeah, right.  What they’re really after is to catch Jesus doing something they can use to accuse and condemn him.  To do it, they’re willing to step on this woman and grind her into the dirt.

But let’s be honest.  The Committee is right.  The woman has been caught in the act; she’s guilty and legally deserves death by stoning.  She knows it.  She’s not denying her guilt.  She’s not blaming someone else for her actions.  She’s not making excuses or claiming she’s misunderstood.  She’s been caught.  Epic fail.

So, there the Committee stands, killing stones in their hands and satisfied smirks on their faces.  Each one is thinking “We’ve got him now.”  If Jesus says, “Yes, stone her,” the people he’s teaching will lose confidence in his message of love and forgiveness.  If he says, “No, don’t stone her,” he’ll be seriously violating the Law of Moses and condoning adultery, so they’ll arrest him.

But Jesus doesn’t say anything just yet.  Instead, mysteriously he bends down and writes something in the dirt with his finger.  I don’t know why he did that or what he wrote.  Maybe he’s getting his anger under control.  Maybe he’s taking some time to work this out.  He’s dealing with 3 kinds of people: the teachable crowd, the self-righteous Sinner Stoning Committee, and, most crucially, the woman, embarrassed and trembling in fear.ea

He writes in the dust a few moments then stands. 

He looks into the eyes and soul of each Committee member and makes one short statement: “The one who has no sin can throw first.”  He stoops again and writes some more in the dirt.  This is all he has to say.

The Committee is dumbfounded.  They drop their rocks and their jaws.  Not even they, as righteous as they think they are, have the audacity to claim to be sinless.  The members look to the chairman: “what now, boss?”  Beginning with the oldest, they tuck their tails and run home to mama.  You can hear chuckles ripple through the crowd.

But the woman is still there.  Still right out there in front of everybody – everybody knows!  And she’s slowly suffocating in her shame.  Even though the Committee is gone, she’s still guilty, still unacceptable.   Nothing has really changed about her.  Her epic fail hasn’t been undone.

Then Jesus straightens up and faces her.  He acts surprised: “Where’d they go?  Doesn’t anyone condemn you?  Didn’t anyone throw a stone?”  She answers, “No one.”  There’s no one left to condemn her.  No one to reject her.  No one to stone her.  No one has the right.  Well, wait, there is one.  The one who is without sin.  Jesus.  He can condemn her.  He can reject her.  He can stone her.  And Jesus picks up one of the rocks and throws it – away.  Maybe he didn’t do that, but I have no doubt that Jesus put his arm around her shoulder when he said, “I don’t condemn you either.”  He doesn’t condone her adultery at all.  He tells her, “Leave your life of sin.”  She has failed.  But he doesn’t condemn.  He doesn’t punish.  He doesn’t kick her while she’s down.  He gives her mercy.  He gives her unconditional acceptance and a chance to start over.

I’ve been where that woman was.  I’ve felt the scorn, as painful as rocks, from the self-righteous when I made mistakes.  Jesus never joined them.  I’ve been where that woman was: epic fail.  Guilty, ashamed.  Jesus never stoned me.  Never condemned me.  Never threw me out.  Never gave up on me.  Always accepts me and picks me up to start over.

What this is all about is grace from Jesus the King.  Here in the shadow of the Temple, the center and power of the Law-controlled way of life, Jesus shows that the power of the new life he’s bringing is grace.  His Kingdom is powered by grace.  People who fail are not treated with a sweet, marshmallowy softness, to be sure.  But they are not rejected and condemned because of their failure.  No one has to desperately try to make themselves good enough and acceptable.  No one has to make sure they never do something wrong.  No one has to live in shame and fear.  With Jesus as King, nobody gets stoned.

What’s happening with this woman caught in the act?  What’s happening when Jesus says to her, “I don’t condemn you; leave your life of sin”?  Jesus is changing her with grace.

People don’t leave their lives of sin when they’re condemned; they keep on sinning.  People don’t change when they’re stoned; they die.  People don’t start living differently when someone points out how wrong they are and demands they do better; they find something to cover up their guilt.  People change when they have unconditional acceptance from Christ.

One day when I worked in a residential treatment center, one of our girls was throwing a tantrum in school.  She was in a rage.  She kicked a garbage can over and pushed books and papers onto the floor.  She overturned a folding table.  She screamed and cussed the staff.  Finally she squatted and stared at the floor, still seething with anger.  I walked over and stood to her side.  I said her name and held my hand to her, palm down.  Many seconds passed then she reached up.  She didn’t take my hand, just brushed her fingers over mine.  She relaxed and stood up and asked if she could take a walk with one of the staff.  But before she did, she cleaned up the room she had trashed.

Grace changes people.  Christ’s grace takes people with epic fails, unconditionally accepts them, and starts them on a new way of living.



Radicalized Christians 2

Posted by Mike Heady on February 12, 2016 with 1 Commentas , , , , , , ,

No condemnation

      A man pulled up and stopped his car in the street next to my home in a small town in Texas.  I had just parked my own car and gotten out.  I didn’t know the man.  He knew I was a pastor, maybe because I was living in the parsonage of a church. He looked distressed as he stood next to his car.  I don’t remember all of his exact words but the gist of what he said was, “Can God forgive me for what I’ve done?”  He seemed desperate.  I assured him of God’s love and willingness to forgive any wrongdoing.  He started getting back in his car, shaking his head.  I do remember his last words: “No, God can’t forgive me!”  He drove away and I never saw him again.

Some people see God like that: I’ve done things so bad and so often that God cannot or will not forgive me.

I think many more people see it a little differently: there is something I need to do that will make a good enough impression on God or will meet his requirements well enough that he will forgive and accept me. That something may be a religious rule or ritual or activity that God has put in place for us to perform.  Or it may be practicing a general everyday life of treating other people well – most others anyway; there must be a few exceptions – “17 miles out in the ocean and I still can’t get away from lawyers” (Jethro Gibbs, NCIS).  Another way that seems would make us acceptable to God is to live by the principle expressed as “I do the best I can” or “I stay true to myself” or “I follow my heart.”

This idea of how to be accepted by God is the religious form of the cultural idea of making it on your own: work hard and earn what you get, there’s no free lunch, you get what you deserve, be worthy of love.  It is the well-worn and often-praised principle: pull yourself up by your own bootstraps.


      How will a radicalized Christian see this?  Is Christianity any different than other religions and viewpoints?

Many Christians will quickly answer, “Yes, God accepts us by grace.”  Okay.  How are we putting that into real life?  How far are we taking that?  How radical is God’s grace?

This radical: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus…” (Romans 8:1, NIV)  “No.”  None.  Nada.  Nil.  Zero.  Zilch.   No condemnation.

Let’s be clear.  This applies to all people “who are in Christ Jesus.”  “No condemnation” is true for every person who is united to Jesus by faith.  Verse 3 explains why this is true: “For what the law was powerless to do…God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful man to be a sin offering.”  The law did not have the power to make us acceptable to God.  Jesus did.  He made us acceptable by taking away our guilt by offering himself to death on the cross.  So anyone who depends on Christ and his offering to be acceptable to God is not condemned.

No condemnation from God – no put down, no judgment, no rejection, no disapproval.  God completely accepts and totally approves.

There is no time when God condemns.

There is no situation in which God condemns.

There is no place where God condemns.

There is no action that brings God’s condemnation.

There is no inaction that brings God’s condemnation.

There are no words that bring God’s condemnation.

There is no thought that brings God’s condemnation.

There is no person whom God condemns.

No blame, no shame, no denunciation, no censure, no scorn for anyone who has faith in Christ.

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      So, there is nothing that needs to be done to get out from under condemnation.  There is nothing for you to do or not do for God to accept you – and acceptance is not God reluctantly putting up with you; it’s God gladly welcoming you as his own.  The Message translation of Romans 8:1 says, ” Those who enter into Christ’s being-here-for-us no longer have to live under a continuous, low-lying black cloud.” There’s no condemnation, there’s no low-lying black cloud, so there’s nothing to do to get out from under it.

Nothing.  You don’t need to promise God that you will do better so he will accept you.  You don’t have to make up for your wrongdoing for God to approve of you.  You don’t have to repent for God to start favoring you.  You don’t even have to ask God to forgive you to get him to forgive you!  You’re already forgiven (Ephesians 1:7).  There’s nothing to do.  God fully, completely, absolutely accepts you with no condemnation.

Yes, this is radical, far-reaching, too much for some people.  In Brennan Manning’s book “The Ragamuffin Gospel” he teaches this radical idea of God’s grace.  You should read it.  Ten years after it first came out, Manning added a chapter to the original and described some of the reaction that had come his way:

I have been denounced publicly and privately as a heretic, schismatic, universalist, and cockeyed optimist… I have been labeled unbalanced, spiritually immature, and intellectually unhinged.  The gospel of grace continues to scandalize.  The legalists, puritans, prophets of doom, and moral crusaders are having a hissy fit over the Pauline teaching of justification by faith.  They take umbrage at the freedom of the children of God and dismiss it as licentiousness.  They do not want Christianity to help us become whole but to feel wretched under its burden.” 1


     Some think Christianity is a religion of rules, performance, achievement, control, and hard work.  They default to that way of thinking because it seems like the responsible way to live faithfully and pleasing to God.  It’s the way the real world works, right?  But it’s not the way we follow Jesus.  It can’t be.  If we attempt to make ourselves acceptable to God by pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps, we will discover the bootstraps are broken. We can’t do it.  We don’t have to.  The heart of radical Christianity is the radical love of God in Christ Jesus.

I went on a spiritual retreat, alone in the mountains of northern Colorado.  I was going through a hard time, struggling with some issues in my life. I spent most of the first day reading Scripture and a book.  That night I built a campfire and looked up at the star-filled sky.  The Lord grabbed my soul and reminded me that the Jesus who made all that loves me personally even when I struggle.  He didn’t just say he loved me – I felt his love pouring into me.  There’s a worship song that says, “In moments like these I sing out a love song to Jesus…”  I started to sing that, but God said, “No, don’t sing.  Let me sing to you.” (See Zephaniah 3:17)  I didn’t hear with my ears, but I felt with my heart Jesus singing: “in moments like these I sing out a song, I sing out a love song to Mike, singing ’I love you, Mike,’ singing ’I love you, Mike,’ singing ’I love you, Mike, I love you.’”

The really astonishing thing is even when I am at my lowest, vilest, most guilty and shameful, God “rejoices over me with singing.”  God loves and accepts and approves of me with absolutely no condemnation.

This is radical Christianity.  Be radicalized.  Believe that there is no condemnation for you in Christ Jesus.  Release your bootstraps.  Instead of asking God to forgive your sins tonight, just thank him that you are forgiven.  Accept God’s acceptance.  Embrace the Father’s grace.  Allow Jesus to apply all that he has accomplished to your mind and soul.  Permit the Spirit to sing his love into your spirit.


1 Brennan Manning, The Ragamuffin Gospel (Multnomah Publishers, Sisters, Oregon, 2000), p.223

We’re all bastards, but…

Posted by Mike Heady on December 17, 2015 with No Commentsas , , , , , , , , ,

I was born into and grew up in a really nice family. Two parents and six siblings.  It was, for the most part, a peaceful and good family.  By good I am referring to values and behaviors.  We went to church all the time; once I gave up playing in a Little League baseball game […]

The case of the mysterious revelation (part 2)

Posted by Mike Heady on November 3, 2015 with No Commentsas , , , , , , ,

(Please read part 1 below) What was God going to do with them? The detective investigated, examined evidence and clues, consulted experts, theorized, followed leads – but he was stumped.  He couldn’t solve the mystery.  So, finally, he just watched.  He set up a stake out and watched.  He watched what God did.   God […]